Friendships

Eleven letters, one word, which gets back infinite wonderful memories. I fall short of words as I try to define this word because to be very honest it is not just a word its a whole new dimension in all of our lives. Its a feeling so deep that just thinking about this word gets back hundreds and thousands of thoughts to our mind and a huge smile on the face. But to my utter disgust and disbelief this word is being used very casually and meaninglessly in todays world. Sad to think about this but yes that is what I observe around me, nowadays people use this word very cheaply which was never meant to be so.

We've all made friends at all stages at life but how many of us have retaliated to the bonds of friendship that we once established. Making friends is no big deal in this world full of seven billion people but sticking to your friendship with that person during thick and thin actually makes you his or her friend. Sadly most of us fail to do this and the once so called friends become strangers as time gradually separates you mentally to such an extend that contact is lost eventually. 2000 Facebook friends, 1500 Instagram followers and a 1000 followers on Twitter but when in pain no one to talk to in real life. That's how bad this concept of "so called friends" is. I have been very particular in choosing my friends and that is the reason I never find myself alone how much ever bad the situation be. Having found two guys who always have been besides me since childhood whom I can rely on for anything and everything has been more than a blessing to me. We may not have chosen the same field in terms of career options and may be miles apart physically but the feeling that one conference call will get half our problems solved is really wonderful. We may not click pictures together when we meet, not be active on social media about this but stand for each other at all stages no matter what and that for me is the definition of friendship. Today I make sure that if I call someone my friend I live up to this word friendship. Having more people to be with and lesser ones to be open to is not what it is all about since the only thing it does is adds to falseness.

The choice of friends you make largely defines you as a person. Having a huge number of friends is never a concept of intelligence but having a few ones you can trust your life upon is. Luckily I've had the sense of recognising fake and unworthy people thereby staying away from them. Choosing wrong people to spend your life with can be really painful in most cases as these people add to your pain in life rather than decreasing it. Wrong company closes doors to the right paths in life and leads you where you never wanted to be. So choice of friends is really important especially in this selfish world of ours where most people are friends until certain work is to be done after which the friendship goes straight into the spam bin. How strange is it that people can make promises of a lifetime and forget it within weeks once they know you cannot help them anymore. Anyways I'll focus on what good a actual bond of friendship does in your life. A perfect friend can be like a support system for one. A consultant, advisor, listener, parent, critic, analyst, teacher, and many such more roles are played by him or her. Someone whom you'd not want to let go off at any cost.

To find someone who actually cares today, is a real big achievement because there are very few who care, others are just there out of curiosity. The only thing worse than falling alone, is having ten such "so called friends" around but still falling alone. So I end it here in hope that irrespective of whether everyone of us finds a life partner or not but surely does find at least one person who actually is a FRIEND :')