Expectations

The strong belief or feeling that something will happen is what we all define expectations as. Expectations may sometimes lead you to disappointments, but the anger of getting disappointments may sometimes lead you to what you expected.

As soon as this word comes up, for most of us it is accompanied by disappointments. Expectations do hurt when not met but the joy and satisfaction that one experiences when they are met is worth every bit of the risk to expect. So making sure the person you expect from does not merely let you down but makes an effort towards meeting those expectations how much ever tough they be is really important if disappointments are to be averted. People who actually care will always make an effort to meet your expectations no matter what and the ones who don't are the ones you need to hold the door open for, so that they can just leave you alone and not ruin your life that would be much better without them. That's the difference between the people who actually care while the others who are just curious. Makes me sick sometimes how people call someone their "friends" when the only thing they actually do is making you feel more and more helpless by breaking all your expectations one by one ruthlessly. 

So they say 'just don't expect anything from anyone and stay happy'. We all know this ain't that easy because as humans we all do have some basic expectations from others, no matter how much ever we try we do expect the people we trust to retaliate the trust and effort we put into them. For me expectations are really important. When I know someone expects something from me it makes me feel special and confident that I'm the one they can risk to put their trust in, which makes me work towards fulfilling their expectations. I also do expect a lot of stuff from people but I make sure of one thing, the person is worth the disappointment if just in case he or she is not able to live up to the expectations. 

Expression of any kind of expectations you have from anyone is also really important. You cannot expect someone to understand what you are expecting of them without telling them. How much ever obvious it be, until you tell that person about what you want, expecting him or her to understand is not the right thing to do. Express your feeling once and then what happens is something you can judge someone on, not without him or her even knowing about it. 

There will be more times when your expectations are not met by even the trustworthy of yours. Does that mean they are no more your trustworthy? What about all the times this one person has retaliated your trust but once he or she did not and you notice that to jump to conclusions without giving that person a chance to justify? That's not how it works folks. The people you put your trust in have a special bond that makes them obliged to be there for you when needed. If he or she fails to do that one time that does not mean you push that person away from your life. Understanding that person's reasons for him not to live up to your expectations is a really important. Believers of second chances do might get hurt once more but at least they tried to maintain the bond of trust which is most important because without trust this world would not be a place to live in. 

Something that I am concerned about is when people expect a lot from others and nothing from their own selves. I expect a lot from myself. I expect myself to become the ideal person in this world. I expect to make people happy and never disappoint them. I expect myself to make my parents more proud than they could ever expect. I expect me to live up to all my expectations and if I don't happen to do that I get upset on myself as well. If I cannot live up to my own expectations how do I expect others to. So yes do expect from others but also from yourself and be equally upset on yourself when you fail to meet your own expectations.

So let us all live up to all the expectations everyone holds for us and also our own ones. Expect the unexpected because life has funny ways to surprise you. ; )