Decisions

We've all come across this word innumerous times in our lives be it anyone. Its such a common word we just cannot escape coming in front of. Grammatically this word is quite small but on the level of emotions, sentiments and life it hold huge importance for each and everyone of us. They say "You are who you decide to be". So technically we decide who we want to be and how true is that. Our decisions do decide who we are.

At early stages in our lives the incapability of decision making led other to make them for us. For instance choosing an appropriate school for us where our parents thought we will do well was never our decision. But then it was made for our well being and we have to accept it however bad the school we've been in. Then as years passed maturity started growing for "most" of us and the kid turned into a teen. Then comes the one big decision that for me is one of the freakiest decision one takes. The decision to chose a field after the 10th grade. This decision according to me is the one which decides your entire life upfront and unfortunately most of us chose wrongly here. And I don't blame anyone for the wrong decision because how can one expect a 15 year old to determine all of a sudden the entire life plan within days. Most of us are not even mature enough for this but the decision has to be taken. This decision which was supposed to be yours ends up being a mixture of many other determining factors. Marks, parents persuasion, forceful implementation, siblings choice and many more but in India it becomes worst because there is one factor above them all which is called "Sharmaji ke bete ne yeh liya". Indian parents always find this one person to compare our performance with and that person is always a step ahead of us. I just dont know why but most of our parents have this thing of comparing us to someone and somehow that other person always lands up doing better then us. At that time we as teens think a bit not much and just go with what seems the best option and trust it to work out. Time tells us if it does or not which is quite a 50/50 chance. If it works out well its good enough and we continue but if it doesn't boss we just have no options and we again continue. So basically it doesn't matter if it works out or not.

Then comes one more decision making time after the 12th boards about what field in the chosen subject do we pursue which in most cases is pretty evident after the results come out. Decisions need to be made between which colleges to join and that's where most of us again face this " Sharmaji ke bete ko itna aya" issue. But its all okay because eventually the decisions have to be made and they are made sometimes out of choice but most of the times out of helplessness. Most of us don't get colleges that we aim for and then have to settle for something we never considered fakingly hoping for it to work out just as well as the college we aimed for would have worked out. So now after getting into colleges one thinks he is free from this decision making concept but here is where it actually gets more intense.

The very first decision we made coming into college is choosing people to be with. We started knowing each other and making friends but then after some time the true realisation happens and formation of groups takes place on the basis of mutual interests. Now its your decision to be it that group or chose another one and eventually most of us land up good as per our considerations. Then we make a lot of decisions everyday as per whether to attend the morning lectures or bunk whether to study or just waste a day and many more. These decisions might seem very small ones considering the huge ones we've already made but believe me these are the ones that matter more than the huge ones. They are like the supporting cast behind any hit film without which the film wouldn't have been possible. These decisions will decide whether the huge ones we have made will work out or not and its important to chose the right ones here. For instance choosing the wrong people to hang around with can completely ruin your time at college irrespective of how much ever clever one be the people around him determine who that person is and that is a really important decision. Then attending college or not is one decision to caution about as most of us prefer bunking but then wait for a moment and think that will bunking lectures unnecessarily justify the decision of joining that particular college.

Some years down the line we all land up getting jobs and supporting our families and it will all be an outcome of the decisions we make today.So lets all just realise our responsibilities and make decisions as such that some months down the line we get prosperity and satisfaction rather than just regret. Let's hope all our decisions do work out as we want them to because remember - You are who you decide to be.